On being proactive…
First a couple of quotes.
Life can me much broader, once you discover one simple fact, and that is that everything around you that you call ‘life’ was made up by people no smarter than you. And you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own things that other people can use. Once you learn that, you’ll never be the same. — Marc Andreesen
Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. — Stephen R. Covey
These 2 ideas have been rattling around in my head. I’ve been working on the early stages of my year-in-review, and I’m looking around at my life. For the first time ever I can honestly say, I am making decisions and taking action that consistent with where I want to be and where I want to go.
My family life? Made up by 2 friends/lovers/spouses/parents who said what they wanted to do and did it.
My business? Made up by a group of people who said what they were going to do and did it.
This isn’t to say it’s easy or without setbacks. I’ve had to change my approach. I have messed up. I have failed. It’s just that everything in life is a choice, and when I choose to focus on what I need to do to get where I want to go, I have the opportunity to go there.
There are very few things we are forced into, so when the outcomes don’t go our way, at least we can have know we still get to choose how to move on.
You might be going through something really tough that’s out of your control. Something may have happened to you that’s irreversible. It may be painful, hard, burdensome, unfair, cruel, etc. I’m not trying to dismiss your circumstances. I just want to encourage you as you go into next year to decide that you have control over your responses, your perspective, your choices, and the action you take.
Whether you accept this truth or not, you are creating the life you want to have through the choices you make and the action you take.