Someone recently asked me how I balance work and family life. For me, it’s a simple decision.
I found out I was going to be a dad when I was 19. At the time, I was a loser. I was unmotivated. I was failing at college because of a lack of effort. I had zero ambition whatsoever.
But the day I found out I was going to be a dad, despite the fact I was a teenager and had giant obstacles to overcome, a fire started in my soul that changed may life forever.
The first person my girlfriend and I told was our manager at the restaurant we worked at because we called out of work. We drove up to a park at the lake where we liked to hang out, so we could talk about our options.
I had so much clarity for the first time in my life. I did not care what happened in the future as long as we were a family.
Part of me was searching to replace what I had lost. My dad moved out of my house when I was a freshman in high school. I never let on, but that killed a part of my heart. That day, sitting in her SUV, in a parking lot at the lake, I decided I would do everything I could do to make sure this baby would not feel the pain I felt.
So how do you balance work and family? You decide what is important from day one. You imagine what you want your life to look like years down the road. You decide what you want your kids to say about you at your funeral. And then you make sure you behavior and actions match your ambition.
The reason I started a company was because I wanted to have the freedom to the be the family man I desired to be. I did not want someone else telling me when I could go see my kids’ school concerts, games, or go to their doctor’s appointments. I also wanted to make sure the people who work for me could enjoy those same freedoms. I wanted Envoy to be a place where people can define their priorities and act accordingly.
It’s why we make software that focuses on automation. I believe software should free people to do what people do best which is connect with others, serve others, and solve problems. You can’t do that when you are sitting in front of a computer clicking buttons. I want our customers to get their time back.
Success in life is living out your priorities. It’s not achievement. It’s not money. It’s not status or stuff. For me, it’s my wife and kids saying “He put us first. He chose us over everything else. He gave us his time. He made sure we knew we were loved.”
Honestly, I could care less about anything else. That’s how I balance work and family.